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This Absolutely Insane Ghosting Story Is Next Level

Underground hit Blog Ask A Manager is a long-running site based around a Q&A format where readers send in tricky workplace management predicaments.

Founder and chief responder, Alison Green, then gives advice and helps with the situation at hand.

Obviously, food or pens being stolen are addressed on the reg, however, NOTHING beats this absolutely INSANE story from Anonymous.

Basically, he wrote in and said: What do I do when a woman I ghosted is my boss now?

I have been an expat since graduating and have been moving a lot. More than a decade ago, when I was still young, I was in a relationship with a woman, Sylvia, in a country where we both lived. Sylvia wanted to settle down but I was not ready to commit so young. We clearly had different expectations from the relationship. I did not know what to do and, well, I ghosted her. Over the Christmas break, while she was visiting her family, I simply moved out and left the country. I took advantage of the fact that I accepted a job in other country and did not tell her about it. I simply wanted to avoid being untangled in a break-up drama. Sylvia was rather emotional and became obsessed with the relationship, tracking me down, even causing various scenes with my parents and friends.

Anyhow, fast forward to now. I now work as a math teacher in an international school. I have been in other relationships since, so Sylvia is a sort of forgotten history. Sadly, till now. This week, I learnt that our fantastic school director suddenly resigned due to a serious family situation and had to move back to her home country over the summer. The school had to replace her. We are getting a new director. I read the bio of the new boss and googled her and was shocked to discover it is Sylvia. We have not been in touch and do not have any mutual friends anymore. I am not a big fan of social media and had no idea what she had been up to since the unpleasant situation a long time ago.

I have no idea what to do and how to deal with this mess

So from first look you can think, yeh, OK, this is an honest and maybe awkward situation.

RIGHT? Wrong.

Don’t feel sorry for this guy. Absolutely do not feel sorry for him…

Guys, when asked by Alison how long they were in a relationship for, THIS was the response:

We were together for three years and lived together for two of those years. I know that ghosting is not a way to end the relationship but I cannot do much about it now. I appreciate the trouble you are taking with getting back to me.

NO. No. No.

Alison was not so thrilled with the guy either and responded:

Normally I’m a fan of people putting aside personal emotions in order to conduct themselves professionally, but I don’t even know what that would look like for Sylvia in this situation. She’s most likely going to be shocked and horrified when she finds out that you work at her school, and that she’s supposed to manage you.

I don’t know that you can salvage this! It’s not reasonable to ask Sylvia to manage someone who she has this history with. You can try and see what her take on it is, but I’d be prepared to have to move on, whatever that might look like for you.”

 LOL.

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