The Friday Debate: Is Honesty Really The Best Policy?
Is honesty really the best policy?
That’s exactly what Carmen and Fitzi duked out this morning on the Friday Debate.
Who had the best argument?
If you missed it, here’s what they each had to say…
Honesty is the best policy but sadly, the so-called “white lie” has become commonplace.
The consequences of a lie can be dire!
Like when Kim Kardashian pitched the idea to make an entire TV show about her boring life and moronic friends. Someone should have said: No, that’s an awful idea.
And someone definitely should have stepped in with the harsh truth the first time Nick Kyrgios lost his cool on the court. And you can bet somewhere in the US right now you’ll find a teacher kicking himself for not telling a 10-year-old Donald Trump that being the US president was probably a goal a shade beyond his ability.
If replaced with a healthy dose of truth just a few short years ago – these consequences could have been avoided. Instead, these idiots were lied to, their self esteem propped up, when it ought to have been torn to shreds.
What those liars feeling now? Guilt. Something scientifically proven to cause headaches, insomnia and nausea!
The only way to absolve that guilt is to tell the truth, especially to our kids so we can rid the world of any future Kimmy K’s, Kyrgioses and Trumps.
Sure the truth hurts, but not as much as 12 seasons of Keeping up with the freaken’ Kardashians.
The idea that honesty is the best policy is a noble notion that we try to teach our children - but as adults, we know much better.
We lie every single day because we know that people don’t want to hear the truth.
Picture this: You wake up on a Monday morning and realise you’ve slept in, you dive out of bed a ragged mess, race into the kids’ room and shake them awake, toss breakfast in bowls, milk spills everywhere, no time for wiping up, you thrown on yesterday’s clothes which were crumpled on the floor, no time to brush teeth or do hair, toss the kids out of the car at school, break all the speed limits, get to work in the nick of time, walk into the office and the first face that greets you is the boss who says “how’s your morning going?”
You say “great thanks!”
You just lied. Why did you do that? Because adults know you don’t want to hear the truth about your problems.
In fact, we dislike people with mouth diarrheaso much we’ll go out of our way to avoid those people who tell you the truth.
At home? It’s well documented in the history of murder how many people have died from their honest response to the question “do I look good in this?”
We teach and expect honesty from our kids yet we rarely return the favour with comments like ‘fluffy’s gone to live on a farm’, ‘we don’t have any money to buy that toy today’ or ‘mum and dad were just wrestling’.
… and don’t even get me started on the big one ‘we can’t come because the kids are sick’, ‘this car has a perfect service history’ and ‘the sex was great, I don’t want a second date’.
A noble notion, but whether we like it or not, our own behaviour proves honesty is not the best policy.