A mum with more than 30,000 followers on Instagram has opened up about the hurtful comments she received when sharing photos of her pregnant belly.

Elisha Bakes, 30, from Melbourne, gave birth last month to her second son, Kaelen, weighing 3.6kgs.

She posted around 40 photos to her Instagram through her pregnancy, showing off her bump in a range of poses, often commenting about how grateful she is for what her body can do, and how heavy she was feeling.

Her posts included this cute video with partner Tane and 21-month-old son Kyson.

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But she says the responses she received were often negative, including calling her belly “gross” and being asked if she was giving birth to 78 babies or even a horse.


“As this was my second pregnancy, I popped a lot sooner than the first time,” Elisha said, according to news.com.au.

“I posted a picture when I was 14 weeks and people were saying I must have the date wrong and be much further along, or I was eating too much and not being healthy.

“People would say hurtful things like, ‘Why is her bump so big? I better not get like this’, and that it was the biggest bump they’d ever seen.

“When people tell you that you look gross or suggest you’re not leading a healthy lifestyle during your pregnancy, it can be hurtful.



“I had hundreds of messages from women who had experienced the same thing. They told me how they would get very anxious about people commenting on their bump and would make them feel very insecure and not be able to enjoy their pregnancy.

“This would range from women who carried small and they would have people ask if they were even pregnant or telling them that they had looked bigger after eating a pizza. Some women were told they needed to eat more, whereas I was told to lay off the food.

“The comments were always worse online. I would receive many nice compliments from women when I was out shopping or something.”

The story’s happy ending was the safe arrival of Kaelen on 28 January at 5.41am, weighing 8lb, who came via emergency c-section.

“I’m feeling very sore and tired but also very blessed,” she wrote in the hours after his arrival. “Thank you for all your beautiful messages and comments. Can’t wait to share my journey as a Mum of 2 boys with you.”

Her Instagram account is @miss.elishab


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